How to Catch Up with Friends Without Sounding Like a Broken Record

We had friends to dinner last week who we haven’t seen in a few years. Caregiver shortages, then a pandemic, our caregiving lifestyle, and, most recently, Carly’s health and anxiety issues have generally made socializing difficult. Our friends had a lot of questions....
Reassurance for the Caregiving Roller Coaster Ride

Reassurance for the Caregiving Roller Coaster Ride

Recently, I was on a walk at Prairie Queen Lake, which is bursting this time of year with blooming trees, insects, birds, and fish. It is buzzing with life and the energetic fervor which summer brings. As I was going along the trail, however, I came upon a dead...
What Is Your Main Thing?

What Is Your Main Thing?

“The storm may be around you, but it doesn’t have to be in you.” —Kris Vallotton What if there was one sentence that helped anchor and calm us when our child’s disability is threatening to steal our joy? Comparison is one joy stealer for many special needs parents. We...
Freedom from Caregiver Stress Wounds

Freedom from Caregiver Stress Wounds

I was tempted to take a break from blogging after reading this post on a friend’s blog this morning: “I’m taking a week off from blogging. Lots happening in my world this summer. And it’s getting a little more difficult to keep up with…which is a...
Your Best Life Now. Not.

Your Best Life Now. Not.

I follow Tim Keller on Facebook. And recently, he posted a quote that caught my eye. “We get angry when we feel like God owes us a better life than we have.” Ooh. That one stings. Have you ever experienced this? Maybe it was anger over a promotion you didn’t receive...
Four Ways to Become a More Satisfied Special Needs Dad

Four Ways to Become a More Satisfied Special Needs Dad

We’ve been celebrating dads this past weekend. And so we should. They have a uniquely tough, demanding, relentless, and nuanced role in parenting. And when they have a child with extra needs, they bear a role that can be intimidating, confusing, overwhelming, scary,...